For years my friends and patients have told me how surprisingly shocking the death of an elderly parent can be. We know it’s inevitable yet the finality is jarring. But knowing and KNOWING are two different things. So her son the doctor reacted just like so many others when my mother died unexpectedly last March at 86 after falling and striking her head. I found it hard to get my arms around the idea that my mother was no longer alive. I received an outpouring of beautiful condolence lette